Road Trip
Did I mention this little four-day extravaganza of girl bonding and creative bliss??

Did I mention this little four-day extravaganza of girl bonding and creative bliss??
And so it came to pass that I was asked to stay two weeks longer in California. Twist my arm... please. (Okay, ouch.)
I have a very full plate right now. Many endeavors hanging in the balance, and I miss Daughter and The Boy.
But a beautiful project is emerging here in Paradiso. Top secret for the moment, lest the father get a peek.
Dozens of photos to share, but I can barely keep my eyes open after a full day. Must be the high elevation. Yeah, that must be it...
Daughter and I said goodbye to our friend today.
Our friend Aleida Franklin was taken from us early this morning, as she drove to work in downtown Dallas. Someone ran a red light, and in that split second the brightness of the world was forever diminished.
Please keep Aleida's family in your prayers.
*We will miss you always, dear friend. You will live in our hearts forever.*
There are some places on earth that just beckon you back over and over.
From the moment you begin driving up the hill, you know there must be something incredible waiting at the top.
The gates give a mere hint at what awaits within. And by hint, I mean you will stand there with your mouth wide open at the view. And then you notice that the gate is padlocked.
Not to worry, it turns out to be the wrong gate, the one they never use.
And this is the reward that greets you as you step into what feels like another world. Lush and fragrant, you are at once transported to the Italian seaside villa of your wildest dreams.
One of the lower courtyards in bloom. Late summer has been very kind on this side of the hill.
Around the corner, and the house begins to come into full view.
The family bought this property in the 1970's, when it was just a (smaller) house in significant disrepair, with several acres of wasted, barren hillside "dirt". In the thirty years since, they have lovingly restored the home, and added incomprehensible amounts of landscaping as well as literally tons of "hardscaping". I hesitate to use such a generic term for what they have accomplished.
It takes your breath away.
A photo "op" at every turn.
Someone should have told me to buy stock in the company that produces plaster columns and statuary. And palm trees.
And, well, planters.
Another verdant garden, looking down to one of the guest houses that were added along the way.
Are you getting that Italian feeling yet?
No???
Well, this ought to do the trick.
On the balcony behind the statue is the "apartment" where Daughter, The Boy and I stayed for a good deal of the month of August. I fear that we stayed too long, and dancing boy up there is blowing that horn with all his might, trying to scare us up a shuttle back to the airport.
But when you have views like this to greet you each day, and Italian music playing through the sound system all over the grounds, how exactly do you tear yourself away?
That is the dance floor that you see, being covered with a green shaggy carpet for a three year old's Princess Birthday Party.The "magic gazebo" will be put up later in the day. Many family weddings have taken place on and around that dance floor.
And now another generation comes here to celebrate.
Sometimes you are above the clouds, as the coastline begins to shed it's morning shroud.
Everywhere you turn, a view more stunning than the last.
A young family moved on to this property thirty years ago, and seven children were raised to be humble and gracious servants of all they had been blessed with. These are kind and generous people, welcoming and open-hearted to a fault.
It's no accident that they are doctors. Doctors and nurses, physical therapists and medical estheticians.
Nurturers.
So many paths to wander. So many steps to climb!
When I first began to visit here, I thought I would never figure it all out.
I got turned around more than once.
Somehow, like a compass, I would always end up pointing north. Well, and a little west.
As night falls, the house is a beacon, guiding everyone back, leaving the rest of the party decorations to wait until morning.
Late in the evening, I always feel compelled to step out onto a balcony, any balcony, just to take it all in once again. The coastal air is cool and breezy, and the twinkling lights are just astonishing.
The allure is complete.
It has been hard for Daughter and I to leave our beloved California, even if it is only for a year or two. It has been only very recently that we have relocated to Texas full time. We try to get back as often as we can to see our friends and family, to shop in favorite stores and eat in favorite restaurants. To feel like we're home.
And sometimes, when we're very, very, very lucky, we get to experience our city from someplace so beautiful, so quintessentially California, that the homesickness is abated for a time.
And for that we are so deeply grateful.
The Boy likes to travel. He's pretty much gotten it down to a science at this point. He moves through the airport with his tiny Buzz Lightyear wheelie suitcase like the seasoned veteran that he has become.
At the tender age of 32 months, he has been on 41 round trip flights. For those of you keeping score, that is 82 times through curbside check-in, through crowded security lines, delays, cancellations, and the myriad challenges that air travel offers. He has flown to New York, to Hawaii, Las Vegas (several times...yikes), Washington, D.C., Florida, and Arizona, in addition to his regular commute of Orange County, California-to-Dallas. If he has skipped your city/state, he apologizes. He'll get there.
And yet he embraces it. He can now get a security line "box" of his own if the stack is not too high. He will drop to the ground and remove his shoes, toss them in the "box" with his blanket and pillow and wait for the okay from security to walk through, boarding pass in hand. He has prompted more than one weary traveler to laugh right out loud. Sometimes that traveler is me. If I'm not too weary.
Once aboard, we have a routine. We always try to fly as close to 1 o'clock in the afternoon as possible, or as we like to call it in the industry, "naptime". A hearty lunch, a beverage, a video on the trusty iphone, and hopefully, this...
Bliss, I tell you.
The flight from Orange County to Dallas is (normally) less than three hours, so this plan is pretty much foolproof. Works almost every time. Well, that is if the flight attendant can manage to notice that a small child is sleeping, and not repeatedly ask me at a volume necessary to counteract the fact that I am wearing headphones, whether or not I need another beverage. Do all of them not read the universal sign language for "No, thank you"?? I'm sorry, but I thought the horizontal wave of a hand, accompanied by a side-to-side shaking of the head, should suffice as an answer. She must be new.
Maybe I'm just cranky because 1o'clock in the afternoon is not my usual naptime, and this is my view for 2-plus hours.
But the mixed nuts were good.
Okay, right about here the view starts improving. I am getting back to my natural habitat, and things are looking decidedly better.
Once we are on the ground in California, The Boy bids farewell and thank you to the entire flight crew, correctly identifies all of our luggage on the carousel, and tells the man outside that we need a cab. Is it okay that I still call him "Baby"?
On this trip, we are staying with a friend just south of Los Angeles. Perhaps this will give you an idea of why we love it at her house. It looks like she threw a padlock on the entrance to keep us out, but this is one of the gates they don't use. I know.
Just before you arrive at the gates, this is the view that greets you.
There's more. Much, much more. But let me get my bearings first, and bask in the salt air and sea breezes.
Cause I'm selfish like that...sorry.
Well, August is certainly off to a rousing start. Naked enthusiasm and joie de vivre abound.
The Boy would prefer to celebrate the dogs days of summer "au naturale". At least this is his preference after a long morning at the shore, when the wet sand in his "baby suit" starts to outweigh his ability desire to cart it around any longer.
He'll find out soon enough that this cheeky behavior is frowned upon in polite circles. And even in picturesque and lovely Laguna Beach, with the hordes of camera-toting tourists milling about this time of year. Oh, they smile, but a tsk-tsk is often mingled in. Then there is the issue of all the cameras. I mean, look what happened here...
But lets not tell him this spirit-crushing news quite yet. Not while he still has such a tiny hiney, and while he still seems so completely innocent. And please, not while he still says "baby suit". sigh.
He has enough to worry about as it is. Little does he know I'm about to sneak up and pinch those sandy cheeks. However, little do I know that he is about to stomp in that deceptively deep pool of water to his right... I think he saw sensed me coming all along. The freedom from clothing restraint is clearly heightening all of his senses.
It's so true about everything being new and exciting through the eyes of a child.
"The End". ahem.
Photo by Gillian Crane.
There was a June wedding in our family.
A bride and her bridesmaids.
Mothers and friends, aunts, nieces, female cousins.
The fairer sex was everywhere.
But other than the bride, which girl is the most excited at a wedding in that "deep-down, twirl-around-the-room" kind of way??
I'm pretty sure it's the flower girl.
So much joy in the celebration. Getting your hair done with the bride and her attendants. A beautiful new dress and slippers, a crown of flowers, and your name right there in the program! All-in-all, a dream come true for a young girl.
But, oh wait...the very best thing? A dance or two (or three) with dad.
Yes, this dad. This dad who doesn't dance. I have known this particular brother for forty-@#*%& years now, and he just doesn't dance. Sigh. I will never be able to figure out how men who are so athletically gifted just decide at a young age that they won't can't dance. They will publicly get knocked out, thrown down, battered, bruised and bloodied in the name of sport, but ask them to go "once around the dance floor"....Noooooooooo!
But dance he did on this stormy June night in Florida, as his youngest became the newest flower girl in the family. Bless him, he danced and danced. And she never stopped beaming. She probably hasn't stopped yet.
I picture bedtime at their house the past two weeks has gone something like this:
"Hey dad, remember when we danced at the wedding?"
"Yes, honey, I do."
"Dad?"
"Yes?"
"That was really fun."
I wish men "got" this about dancing. It really does make them the total package. This particular man is kind and smart, funny and hardworking. A great father. A great brother. But when he dances with a woman who loves him, well, we (the females in his family) all stand back with our hands folded ever so lightly on our chests, holding our collective breath. We are moved. We are girls.
And this is how happy a little dancing made one lucky flower girl. And her dad.
(Let's pause here for a moment and try to determine where this beautiful child got her giant smile.)
Just because I love this photo so much, I'm adding in the color version. And now let's ponder where she got those eyes. Wait, actually I'm pretty sure those are from her mother. Sorry, bro.
And just for the record, yes, other males in my family danced that night, too. In public. And I have proof.
Just sayin'.
Someone started preschool today. A couple of "someone-elses" were wistful, yet felt strangely free.
He hit the playground with a vengeance, and virtually never looked back. Either he was perfectly prepared, with his sense of self-confidence firmly intact, or he was desperate for the company of others.
Hmmm... I'm going with prepared.
The Boy......Oh, the places he'll go!
(Photo by Gillian Crane Photography. Thanks, Gillian!)
I've spent some time today looking through recent photographs, caught up in my feelings about Mothers Day.
This one, of Daughter and The Boy, struck me as a poignant moment in the life of a young mother.
How often does a small child call out "Mommy, mommy, chase me!" So we do.
And in that joy, in that innocence and visceral delight, the bonds of love grow stronger.
"Mommy, chase me!"
"Please help me chase my hopes, my dreams, my self-confidence, my comfort, my spiritual center, my place in the world." And oh, yes, we do. With all our hearts, we do.
And in the doing, WE grow stronger. Then oh-so suddenly, as they develop strength and confidence, they begin to turn around and chase us with the same fervor. And the joy is still palpable every time.
So maybe we should celebrate today by "chasing" our babies, big and small, for a moment longer. Whether they ask for it or not. And go ahead and feel free to BE chased a little, as well!
It's the circle of life.
Happy Mother's Day, everyone!